About Derick Turner

My story

Hi, I’m Derick Turner and this is my site dedicated to helping develop upright men.

I’m a blogger, speaker, and personal development coach. I help everyday men develop the strength and tools they need to feel more confident as husbands, fathers, and providers so they can live up to their fullest potential as Upright Men.

What Does That Mean?

Upright Men

Upright Men are those who are intentionally striving to be better.

Too many men are falling short of their potential. Perhaps it’s from lack of understanding. Maybe it’s because they were never taught in the first place. Ultimately, there are not enough men who know how to lead by example, love with sincerity, and put the most important things first in their lives.

 I hope to help change that so together we can each become the men we are meant to be.

About Derick

So here’s my story…

I grew up as the oldest child in a family of four boys. I played sports, was in boy scouts, and was active in my church and community. I excelled at practically everything I did when I was young and it felt great. I believed I could do anything.

After graduating high school and completing a church mission I enrolled in college and starting living a normal twenty-something life. I quickly found that life was not as simple as before. Success did not come as easily for me. I began feeling overwhelmed. I began feeling small.

In spite of these doubts I worked hard to progress my life. I eventually found a girl and we got married. I regained some of my old confidence as we built our new life together. I became a father to four incredible children and we were your typical American family. 

We never had a magical, fairy-tale like story but we made the most of it and it seemed we were pretty happy. 

Professional I worked hard to provide for my family. I spent time in sales, law enforcement, and business development. Along the way I started my first business helping small companies with sales and marketing. We were never wealthy, but we got by.

In time, however, I began feeling the common emotions that accompany life. As a man in the role of husband, father, and provider, I felt overwhelmed, insignificant, powerless, and weak. My hard work was not producing quite the financial outcome I desired. 

As my own self confidence went down I felt beat up and impotent. I was quickly losing the confidence, belief, and positivity I had worked for. I was ashamed of my perceived inabilities and it made me feel weak.

As my self worth went down, so did my marriage. It seems it all became too much and my wife of 14 years asked for a divorce. We had four children together, we had made every decision as a team, and she was now giving up on me. It broke me. I felt lower than I had ever felt. All the dreams and plans went away. It hurt… I hurt.

At the time I felt I had no idea why it happened. There was no egregious discretion; there was nothing that would have outwardly hinted that my marriage was failing, and yet it did.

If I was feeling low and weak before, I was now devastated.

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

Victor E. Frankl

That was in the spring of 2015. I’ve taken the time since then to deeply analyze my life in order to better understand who I am and what I needed to do differently.

I’ve learned to recognize that I am happiest when I am at my best emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically. I may rarely feel confident at all of those areas all at the same time, but I’m encouraged knowing that I’m working to become a better version of myself.

Thus began my efforts with DerickTurner.com

I knew that I could either spiral down into negativity, or I could do something positive and constructive with my emotions. 

I knew I wanted to go up. I knew I had to make a difference in the world. I knew I would only feel better if I was helping others to feel better.

Specifically, I knew that I wanted to help men.

I wanted to become a better man, and I wanted to help other men become better

The world has an unfortunate shortage of men living up to their fullest potential. I was one myself, and I knew how it felt falling short.

This is where I came up with the “Developing Upright Men” concept. It’s what I want to be. It’s who I want to be.

 

I don’t claim to have all the answers. I do not stand ignorant of my own weaknesses. But I also know this message must be spoken, and I’ve been blessed with the courage to carry the banner as I work towards my own development as an Upright Man.

Along the way I’ve found new love and I’ve started a new life. I still have my amazing children, but now I have a beautiful new bride and two additional children for whom I get to be a father figure.  

When it comes down to it, this is my real reason for everything I do. My family.

They are my everything. They are my reason. They are my motivation. They are my WHY. 

I hope you’ll join me on this journey as together we work towards becoming our best versions of Upright Men.

What can I do for you?​

I propose that if you join me on this journey to become a better man you will find a part of yourself you may have lost. You will gain confidence and realize that you’re far more capable than you believe. You will recognize and remember your worth and potential.

Unfortunately, that reality is often lost as we make our way through life. I want to help you remember. I hope that you will allow me to act as a guide on this journey. 

I will offer inspiration. I will provide resources. I will serve as an honest sounding board and host of a community where you can work on becoming the incredible person you were born to be.

Whether you are married, single, divorced, or widowed, you have so many people looking to you to be the Upright Man they need you to be. And even if the change is only for yourself, it’s worth it!

While the growth must come from within yourself, I’m here to guide you on your way. You have so much potential, and it is so very important that you succeed. Let’s do this!

Feedback & Reviews

” Derick has fantastic management skills that really show in his time management and ability to provide results that far exceed normal expectations.  “

Steve Brown

CEO - QCS

” His p³Clarity system is actually a brilliant concept and system, and I recommend you work with Derick if you need alignment with the passion, people and processes “

Todd Bauerle

Owner - Bauerle Consulting Services

Derick is the kind of person who puts 100% in to everything he does. He inspires others to do better through his inspiring words, but more from his actions.

Robert Shiner

Asst. Director - Lexington Law Firm

Why do I do this?

I’m personally inspired by the belief that men were created to be honorable, respectful, and capable masters of their life. In all my imperfection I strive for this every day, and I want to help others do the same.

There are a few specific beliefs I have that drive me.

I believe in Real Men  

I grew up watching cowboy and superheroes. I always loved the way these men stood for goodness and right. It made sense to me. I was also raised by good parents who taught me right and wrong. I knew that I always wanted to be a good person. I knew I always wanted to be an example. I hope to help others find their own inner superhero.

I believe in Honesty and Integrity

I earned the rank of Eagle Scout. I spent several years working in law enforcement. I have always wanted my life to stand for something. I believe that men are inherently good, and with the right direction they are capable of almost anything. I believe that good is rewarded with good, and I crave the blessing that come to those who live a good life.

I believe in Service and Charitable Love

I am a Christian. I believe in a Higher Power that guides me and helps me to be my best. I believe that same Higher Power exists for each and every one of us. I will always come from this perspective when I teach, and I will not limit my teaching to just certain religions. I believe all men have the right to their own beliefs, and I stand by any man who lives a for a higher purpose. I believe it all comes down to loving others and serving one another. If we do this we will all be better for it.

What can you expect?

This is primarily a blog site where I will be posting content that is meant to inspire men to be better. I’m trying to reach out to any man who feels an intrinsic motivation to become better, stronger, more confident, and more upright. This site is not meant for the too-cool, too-tough, too-macho man who is unwilling to admit he could be better.

It’s easy to feel like you’re the only one going through hard things. I’ve talked to too many men who feel like they are unique in these challenges. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

Still, what man is going to step up and acknowledge he feels weak, or scared, or overwhelmed, or even defeated?

It takes courage, but I believe you can do it. I want to offer a place where any man can come to find reassurance and strength, or any woman can come to find ways to encourage and support her man. I want to be your friend so that no one ever has to feel alone.

What will I be focusing on?

Here are some of the things I will be talking about on this site:

  • Marriage
  • Fatherhood
  • Divorce
  • Employment
  • Chivalry and Etiquette
  • Spirituality
  • Being a Man

I will typically publish a new post each week. I don’t want you to miss anything, so please subscribe to receive my posts in your email. I will never share this information.

In the end I want to help you become a better version of yourself because that is my own goal for myself. If you allow yourself, you may be surprised just what you’re capable of. You may also realize that you yourself are an Upright Man.

My Disclaimer

This is my personal site.  The opinions I express here do not necessarily represent those of anyone else I may be affiliated with, be it an employer, company, or organization.

The information I provide is on an as-is basis. I make no representations as to accuracy, completeness, currentness, suitability, or validity of any information on this blog and will not be liable for any errors, omissions, or delays in this information or any losses, injuries, or damages arising from its use.

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