When You Feel Like Your Best Is Not Enough
There is only so much you can do, and that’s what makes you unique
By Derick Turner
Like everyone, I’ve faced trails. I’ve felt overwhelmed. I’ve been defeated.
I’ve seen challenges in my career, my relationships, my self-confidence and more. There have been periods where, in spite of my best efforts, I just could not figure out what was going on with my life. It can feel daunting when you are trying your best and you still can’t seem to make sense of your life.
Nothing makes those times easier, but remembering a few things can help to make this or any other painful growing experience pass with less lasting damage and more personal development.
Here are 3 things I’ve learned to focus on which have always helped bring me comfort.
“One of the hardest things to remember when you are in the middle of a trial is that the trial does not define you.”
Pain is temporary, pride is forever
I learned this adage back in my high school football days. We reminded each other of this every time we were facing a daunting physical challenge. I have learned that this truth goes beyond our physical trials, and carries over into our emotional and even spiritual worlds.
The fact that life can be challenging is well understood. It is a hard truth. The pain that these trials can inflict upon us can sometimes feel insurmountable. If you think back however, you realize that not only have you never suffered any lasting damage from any of your previous pains, but you would very likely struggle to even remember the details of those incidents.
Even though you may carry scars from some of the worst, you’re still here and your whole life is in front of you.
Let the pain of a present challenge encourage you onward. Pain means you still feel. It means you still care. Allow the pain to motivate you, but don’t let it define you or beat you.
There is something to learn from this
This is a tough one. Nobody wants to hear this when they are in the middle of a trial. It feels like a trite statement coming from someone who doesn’t really understand. In truth, while they may not understand exactly what you are experiencing, they probably do understand to an extent.
That’s because we all have been through our own trials. We do all understand what that feels like, and like them, there probably is something you will learn from this that will one day allow you to share your experience with someone else.
One of my greatest personal defeats has been a continually compelling lesson that carries with me even today. I still feel the sting of that failure, but oddly, I think I will never regret the lesson it has taught me. Indeed, I did learn.
Your circumstances do not define you
One of the hardest things to remember when you are in the middle of a trial is that the trial does not define you. You are facing a temporary situation, and it does not change who you are.
Yes, in truth, you will change. You probably should change in fact, because you should learn and grow from the trial. You will likely become a better person if you allow yourself to be. Nonetheless, you are still you, and while you will surely feel that people on the outside are judging your circumstances, they can’t possibly know and don’t understand it the way you do.
Do not let the trial break you. You have the wonderful opportunity to become a stronger, more capable, and more confident person once you are through this experience.
You are strong enough
It would be easy to say that all pain is for our good, but we know some of it stings a little more than others. Regardless, you dictate the way the pain affects you. You determine the direction your trials are able to steer you. You decide who you want to be in the end.
Remember, time will pass one way or another. Whether you are experiencing good or bad, you have the opportunity to grow and make more of yourself for it. Take the experience and let it strengthen you, so that you will always be stronger and more capable because of it.
In the end, you came make your trials and experiences some of the most valuable you ever go through.